Write that thank you note that you’ve been meaning to send this year… or would like to send next year…

The reason I’ve gotten stuck with these is partly because of the visitors I’ve had, partly because I’ve been feeling fragile and really haven’t wanted to reflect/probe, but mostly because I just don’t know what to say here. I think that I would not have survived 2012 without four people. Not that I’d have killed myself or anything, but I probably would have run home to hide under my bed. And by home I meant Hyderabad.

 The first two on this list are, without doubt, my parents. I cannot begin to articulate how amazing they are. Yes, they have fucked up often, especially in the past. We have had our disagreements, and how! But at the end of the day, they have always stood firm by me. Poog has taken issue with some things they have done and said, but my point to her has always been that they are human, they are doing what they think is best for me, because they love me, not because they are worried that society will shame them, or because it’s how things have always been done. If they say to me, babe losing weight will help you get a guy, it’s not because they think I’m not good enough how I m, but because they know that I want to get married, they know that guys and society want women a certain way and thus, the easiest way to make my life easier is to just lose weight. I know this too, but I reject it. And they accept that as well. Mostly, this year I have seen them take giant steps to change and adapt to me, to what I want; they have consciously accepted that I am an adult and might do things differently from them, and have supported me unconditionally regardless. They no longer tell me what they think, they ask me what I want and how they can help me get it. I can’t think of people my age who are capable of doing something like this–just accepting someone you love and their life, their choices and what they need–so I am amazed that they have managed it. So thank you Amma and Appa.

The third person on the list, again, is no surprise–The Bride. My lodestone, my yardstick, my voice of reason, she is someone I can literally say anything to, without fear of judgement. She is someone who I can trust from the bottom of my heart will always tell me straight what she thinks, and when I’m being an idiot, with no agenda. Everyone should be lucky enough to have a friend like her in their lives. Thank you for all the hours of shrinking and silliness, handholding and advice, faffing and love. I’ll never ever regret the Pisspot =)

The last person on this list is new to my life, and has become, over the past eight months, practically indispensable. I have written posts to him before, but I need to say this once more, loud and clear if only to remind myself, when I’m cranky, of the truth to his presence in my life. The help and support I’ve had from Amma, Appa and the Bride have been invaluable and vital, but on a day to day basis, there are days I would not have made it out of bed if it hadn’t been for Lithium. And it’s the blog that got me to meet him, so yay blog =) Midnight meltdowns, driving all the way to see me because I was sad and needed cuddling, always answering the phone, random movies and days spent in silliness, vast amounts of alcohol–you have been the rock I have clung to this horrible horrible year, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

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